"You're having a knee-jerk reaction to your sadness and not wanting to be alone," she says.
You owe it to yourself to have some alone time, according to Dr. As difficult as it is when you're fresh out of a partnership, spending time alone can allow you to reassess what you want and need from a partner, she says.
Then, once you break up, you have to figure out how to do these boring things alone. Bonior, there is a temptation for some people to just try to "replace" the partner that they had before.
"Logistically, it feels strange, and you want to fill that hole," Dr. "They're looking for a facsimile or just the exact opposite of their partner," she says.
It seems to work, but none of the dates amount to anything beyond a one-night stand, perhaps because Dev is still hung up on his ex.
For Dev, that meant going to Italy to learn how to make pasta.
And finally, emphasize again that you care about the person and the relationship.
This message is as important as telling her that you have depression, says Friedman.
If things become more serious, however, you should tell your potential partner.
Friedman says a good time might be when you decide to see each other exclusively or when you just feel that you care more deeply about each other.