Here are some questions from Education Wife Assault to ask yourself about your relationship.
If you answer yes to any of these questions, I encourage you to speak with a counselor or trusted friend.
While the behaviors may not be abusive, they can worsen over time if you don’t change.
The wild thing was that he saw nothing wrong with his requirements and even stated that he had once struggled with perfectionism, but had overcome it. His list reminds me of something author Patricia Evans wrote.
In The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Evans says that an abusive man creates an ideal world that does not exist by forming an image of the perfect woman.
I once chatted with a 36-year-old man on the Internet who asked if I would like to see his requirements for a mate and marriage. “Send them over.” His request was curious, but I was amused when I received his list for the perfect wife.
His criteria for marriage were included in approximately eight e-mails with three to four attachments each.