Cheating tears apart that contract, particularly the security of the relationship. She acted how she wanted to act fully aware of the harm it would do to both you and the relationship. The guy was acting just as any guy would do, as you would probably do if the situation was reversed.Love for a man is loyalty, and in your case my emotionally messed up writer, there is no loyalty, there is no love. Things “don’t just happen” no matter how much women try to make it sound that way. Just because she feels regret later doesn’t change anything.That maybe there was something better you could have done in your relationship.That maybe you should have been more strict about her drinking.[Read: 15 things you really need to know before planning your first date] After all, the best first dates are ones that seem perfect and memorable even if it seems like it’s all planned in the last minute. It shows that you haven’t planned your date nor have you paid any attention to impressing your date or doing something exciting.One of the most important criteria of a perfect first date is to keep it exciting without bordering on discomfort. A first date should help both of you get to know each other on a romantic note. If your date asks you to suggest something to do *especially if you’re the guy*, make sure you suggest something.[Read:13 physical attraction tips to look way hotter!] First date ideas to wow your date First dates are delicate, just like a first kiss.
Well last Thursday she was at a bonfire with friends drinking. She says she relapsed back into her old way and didn’t mean anything.Keep your level of intimacy in mind while planning a date because your date’s level of comfort around you matters a lot for the date to be successful.Plan a first date carefully, keeping a few exciting backup plans and alternatives in mind all the time. I don’t know…” [Read: 40 first date questions to have a great conversation] That conversation is the death knell on a date.If you want to get your power back, start acting like a man and dump her. Talk to people about it, it will make you feel better.Getting back together, or going to counseling is all nice and dandy, but it is not what men do. I know your having a tough time focusing on other things, but it just takes a lot of time to get over it. Eventually your feeling of hurt/shock/and self reflection on what you could have done better will be replaced with anger/disgust/revenge.