’ But for me, it’s not anything about chastity or fear of sex. For example, some young people speak disparagingly of the messy emotional state love and lust can engender, referring to it as “catching feelings.” This generation has also grown up in an age when it is possible to inflict suffering in ways that are both hidden and horrifyingly public, such as cyberbullying or posting compromising pictures online.In such an environment, young people have developed what some see as necessary defenses and others view as thin skin.The trend may also reflect that women feel more empowered to say no, said Stephanie Coontz, director of research at the Council on Contemporary Families.“As people have gotten much more accepting of all sorts of forms of consensual sex, they’ve also gotten more picky about what constitutes consent,” Coontz said.
“I don’t involve myself in the scene of frat parties and hookup culture . “It’s not like I’m saving myself for anything; it’s more like, I’ve been busy.” At Tulane University, in New Orleans, Wolff’s high school classmate Claudia W., 19, feels like an odd duck in a sea of Tinder users.
Sam Wei, a 26-year-old financial analyst in Chicago, has not had sex since her last relationship ended 18 months ago.
She makes out with guys sometimes, and she likes to cuddle.
Granted, the vast majority of young adults are still having sex, but an increasing number of them appear to be standing on the sidelines.
Delaying sex is not necessarily bad, experts say: Being intentional about when to have sex can lead to stronger relationships in the long run.