Stevens: Men bond through activities, where women bond more through talking.
The activities men enjoy and want to share with women are often physical and outdoorsy, so they want a woman who is fit. And everyone wants someone with social skills, drive, and ambition.
Stevens: We live in a world where there are so many choices and so much technology.
Marriage has become much more of a choice, and some people wrestle with whether or not it’s a choice they want to make in their 20s.
What do you feel men and women in their 20s are looking for in a spouse? From there, men are really looking for a woman who makes them feel great, that’s what flirting is for.
I also see people use a lot of “should” statements.
For example, a man looks at the perfect woman for him and says, “I should like her and I should want to call her more.” The moment you say “should,” the more unattractive it is.
The reverse also happens: The person you shouldn’t be with becomes the person you really want to be with.
If you’re not feeling a connection with the kind of person that really would be best for you, chances are you’re “should-ing” yourself, and that’s part of the problem.