Infidelity is an enormous hurdle for a marriage to overcome, but just ending the affair is not enough, says Kaye.For a marriage to fully get past adultery, the unfaithful half of the couple cannot maintain a "friendship" with the former lover.
There are many areas of compromise in a marriage, such as who is responsible for dealing with the finances, where you should spend the holidays, or how to handle family issues.
"You’ll want to maintain the connection with the kids because they’ll need someone safe in their lives," Brooke says.
"But in order to maintain that connection, you need to keep connected to their parents." Extend Your Friendship for the Grandkids Keeping the relationship friendly with a former son- or daughter-in-law may not be easy.
One of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage is mutual respect, says Savage.
When that's gone—when one partner consistently feels dismissed, rejected, and condescended to (and the other partner doesn't see it or refuses to talk through it), you're in a bad place.