Each person should pay an equal percentage of their income," says Judith A. D., healthy-relationship specialist at the Boston Center for Adult Education.
And if she wants to do an activity that is out of your price range, Swack says to discuss the problem.
Just because your bank account isn't the same size as hers does not mean she can treat you like the help.
When asked how you'd describe a frugal date, men said she'd be "sexy" and "smart." Women said he'd be "stingy" and "boring," according to a survey of 1,000 adults commissioned by ING Direct USA.
"Money can buy a lot of things, but it is never a substitute for respect," Boykin says.
The still moribund economy has everybody paying closer attention to their expenses these days.
(And no, the surveyors apparently did not ask how giving up sex would help a woman budget.) A few other highlights from the survey: This stark contrast in money-tudes got me wondering about whether there were new money rules when dating.
So I called experts -- dating coaches, matchmakers and even the lauded "Love Doctor" -- a Detroit psychologist who has been studying the success and failure of 300 couples for the past 25 years -- and asked what sort of financial behaviors would serve you best if you wanted to couple up.