Remember that the negative differences you create in your own failed comparison to the late wife may be just the reasons why your husband found you to be so appealing!You cannot love a widower enough to make him forget his late wife.Lovingly remind him that you are aware of the significance of these dates when they occur, and that you are available for listening should he wish to share his feelings.
If you are to be truly “one” with your husband, it will be your responsibility to learn all you can about grief and its effects in order to understand how they will eventually fit into your individual marital puzzles. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross has penned a wonderful book based on her study of the bereaved called “On Death and Dying”.
Between the two of you, decide which possessions you are both comfortable with keeping, and which of them you are willing to donate to Goodwill.
Remember that you each have special mementos of the past which hold great sentimental value.
Many WOWs deal with this problem when blending two households into one, and it can cause the most pain and frustration in your new marriage – yet it doesn’t have to.
The keys to healing this problem are communication and compromise.