'I felt it was better I met someone the same status as me.' She joined Date Positive and 'found a whole new world.
At the beginning it was great meeting people - men and women - on the site who really knew what I was going through.
The other option is to have protected sex then tell them afterwards, but that seems underhand.'Fortunately, however, there is now a breakthrough for women like Jessica.
New dating websites are springing up designed to give a choice to single people with STIs.
Three women talk to Louise Millar about their experiences – and an initiative that offers new hope Dating can be complicated enough at the best of times. With one man she decided to leave it two weeks before telling him. Jessica contracted herpes from a long-term partner who had omitted to tell her about his condition.And to do that you need to put it into a context and avoid making moral judgements about yourself.I have seen cases of women who contracted STIs from a long-term partner who played away at the end of their relationship." Then there was an anxious wait for him to have a blood test.It was very emotionally draining.'When the marriage broke down for other reasons, Sarah decided enough was enough.