While many comparisons have been made to drug addiction, Dr.Michael First, professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University, disagrees, citing a lack of quantifiable research. Research shows a great way to ward off anxiety is by connecting in bed. “When a woman is stressed, the hormonal changes in her body trigger a chemical reaction causing sex hormone–binding globulin to bind with testosterone cells, so they’re unavailable for libido and sexual response.” And, in a pattern familiar to many women, sexlessness due to stress makes you more tense and even less sexual. D., director of the Berman Center for women’s sexual health in Chicago.The list of behaviors associated with a sexual addict is so mundane, practically anyone can tick off at least a couple. "If you’re married, your acceptable sexual behavior may be defined differently than if you’re single,” says Mike Weiss, a certified addiction therapist and founder of The Sexual Recovery Institute.“Sexual addiction follows a certain repetitive pattern; if you’d rather ask forgiveness than permission, that’s abusive." Compulsive sexual behavior, the clinical phrase for sex addiction, is what experts call a "progressive intimacy disorder," meaning that it worsens the longer it's left untreated. He doesn’t care how many partners you’ve had; it’s all in the past. To find out the answer, fall back to the fundamentals: identifying the addict is the first step. One-night stands, extra-marital affairs, GPS hook-ups, obsessive online dating.And when it comes to sex addiction, that first step is a doozy. The list is long and gets darker the further down you go: compulsive masturbation, exhibitionism, voyeurism, prostitutes.
“He was never going to recover if we kept doing the same stuff,” she says. “I didn’t realize I even had a libido,” she says, sounding giddy. Here are seven signs you might be dating a sex addict: 1. Sex addicts lose time to their addiction, becoming preoccupied with thoughts of sex and sexual material, and how to seek both out.
D., professor of psychology at the University of Virginia in Charlottesville.
“Good relationships offset tension in daily life.” Anxiety spikes blood pressure, which hobbles the immune system.
Megan could have left, but she chose to stay for five more rocky years. For one, he’d never expressed any interest in children.
“Looking back I think mainly I wanted to keep an eye on him.” During that period they split and reunited several times, and had a second child. But also, I didn’t want to strip them of their father, half of their identity.” Like many sex addicts, Frank had been sexually abused. Prostitutes don’t take credit cards and fetish shops rarely advertise their businesses on sales receipts. Or he cashed his check and can’t explain where the money went.