Most striking is the large number of men in their mid-to-late 30s who have not yet settled into long-term relationships.Still on the game, like perpetual teenagers just after some no-responsibility fun, even though they are creeping towards the border of middle age.The common factor which unites them all is the search for a mate, short-term or long-term, for sex or for love or for companionship.The oldest man I have seen on Tinder was an 80-year-old widower.When High50's Monica Porter tried Tinder for the first time she was irritated by unreliable young men, but on using the dating app again this year she found guys in their 30s 'like teenagers after some fun' I first downloaded Tinder on to my smartphone in the summer of 2013, soon after the innovative new dating app was launched in the UK.That was the year of my great Internet dating adventure and it seemed an intriguing experiment to try. When I discovered that Tinder automatically takes some basic details from your Facebook profile, including your correct age, I cringed with embarrassment. Far from putting off the legions of 20-something men looking for 'action', my age was virtually an aphrodisiac for many of them.
It's a consistently divisive issue, and I'm surprised how stubbornly contentious it remains. Having run into several issues over the years, I am still debating the pros and cons of those choices. If you are over 30 and/or divorced, you have probably had your heart broken, and so has the person you are dating.Just as I think I have been stood up, a lone chap arrives, clad in a lime-green anorak, looking anxious and slighter in stature than I was expecting.The barman points me out, and Home Boy steps up and greets me confidently with a kiss on the cheek. The period after a breakup is the perfect time for a little post-relationship debriefing with trusted friends.I was delighted to learn that they didn't equate being a sexagenarian -- which scared the s*** out of me, I can tell you -- with having one foot in the grave. The users' flightiness is still there, but no longer is it a dedicated forum for randy young guys and lovelorn girls.It has evolved into a proper microcosm of our society, and the over-50s -- so many of whom are footloose and fancy-free after relationship break-ups -- have taken to it with a vengeance.