He fluctuated between bouts of sobriety and bouts of acting out.
He begged me to come back to him, insisting that he was committed to his recovery.
His therapy freed him to talk about his addiction without his previous shame and guilt, and, he had stopped lying. It is extremely stable and calm and we are both very happy.
We were both able and willing to take early retirement from our jobs and we knew we could be happy together if only he could get his addiction under control and stop his chronic lying (he lied about everything, even things that he didn’t need to lie about).
Eventually Larry had a breakthrough when his third counselor focused on working through his anger over his childhood abandonment issues of his mother leaving him and his sister when he was very young, and his physical abuse in a foster home.
He started taking anti depressants, which helped his morose mood immensely.
I know this is possible because my husband Larry has accomplished all of these things.
The journey has not been easy for either one of us.