Today, such requests seem tame compared to the sort of sexual coercion marking Harvey Weinstein and other sexual harassers.
Exploiting yourself on the quest for attention was one risk with AIM.
We planned Halloween costumes and epic homecoming sleepovers.It was in those unstructured conversations that I could be typing so fast my guard came down.“It was pleasurable to meet new people and learn that you were ‘attractive’ somehow,” Katz recalls.AIM created “a safe space,” genderqueer writer and performer RE Katz tells me. mostly faking, some experimenting, performance.” That performance — complete with the costume of a font and the character of a username — was an attempt at being clever or sexy, at crafting a self. : The Story of 8 Best Friends, 1 Year, and Way, Way Too Many Emails” and the Twitter account @Your Away Message.Katz credits AIM as helping shape their own gender expression today. The technology was new, but it wasn’t that different from what adolescents have been doing for ages. “I think it helped young women feel like they could come into their own in a lot of ways,” Moss says. In class, I was the person with the right answer — or the person constantly competing with the other smart kid who said it first.