It’s a beautiful, intimate and powerful act that brings two people close in ways that nothing else does. That kind of deep, emotional attraction that makes him stay…Men value what they have to work hard to get and having sex early in the dating process means that you have given it away somewhat easy. This is the reason why in spite of all that great chemistry and connection, a man will often disappear by telling you “He is not feeling it for you” and go for a woman that has made him work hard.First, there's nothing "wrong" with simply enjoying sex, or just casually hooking up with guys and not wanting a relationship. It's breaking promises and being dishonest with yourself. My advice: Don't tell someone you want to be monogamous unless you really do.There are plenty of healthy reasons for not settling into monogamy. Fail better." That said, cheating on a partner is hurtful and disrespectful and just plain crappy. And, the next time you're sure you want to cheat on someone, try breaking up you hook up with the next guy. My boyfriend and I were in the new-relationship, can't-keep-our-hands-off-each-other phase and were about to start having sex when he had to go to the hospital for a medical issue.Second, there doesn't have to be something "wrong" with you for you to be doing the wrong thing. Guys' libidos are generally like the monsters in horror movies: Just when you think they're dead, they come roaring back.
Our self esteem can take such a bottom hit in those moments.I write about this in detail in my e-book, “Your Feminine Roadmap To His Commitment.Learn How To Inspire A Man’s Full Devotion” where I give you the step by step roadmap (literally!But, if you're looking for a serious relationship, you don't want to waste your time on people who are trolling for nothing but casual sex.That's why you should have that talk early, but frame it in such a way that it's not specifically about the two of you and is, instead, about your general dating approach.