D., of Loyola University Medical Center in Maywood, Ill., describes one way such extramarital relationships start.
“One spouse connects online with someone they knew from high school.
” After answering these questions, a person should ask for their spouse’s opinion on how well they are doing in these areas.
Comparing notes with compassion and sensitivity can lead to new growth.
A wife may think it’s not a temptation for her to be Facebook friends with her high school boyfriend, but if her husband is uncomfortable, it is a problematic issue for the marriage.“They also view issues causing conflict as a common enemy.When intimacy and communication fail, the individuals become self-seeking in the marriage, trying to extract what they desire from one another instead of serving one another.” His marriage check-up includes the following questions: Kimmons’ experience suggests another question: “Do I talk to someone outside my marriage more than I talk to my spouse?Online anecdotes blaming social media for failed marriages and relationships are easy to find: Meanwhile, 43% of U. Internet users check in with social networking sites daily and countless others use social networks on an irregular basis. Mark Gaither, founder of Redemptive Heart Ministries and author of , says “If social media—e-mail, dating sites, etc.—does anything to contribute to the divorce rate, it makes illicit behavior more convenient. “The Internet offers a less risky entrance to the world of cheating for someone who would otherwise choose a more constructive path.” Gaither argues that social networking isn’t the problem.Few people would leave a spouse at home to troll nightclubs for affairs because the exposure is too great. “I receive a lot of mail from men and women dealing with a wayward spouse, and they frequently mention dating sites, virtual sex, and hidden e-mail accounts in the context of cheating, but none see the Internet as the core problem,” Gaither says.