“Sometimes we are our own worst enemies in that when our hopes and fantasies clash with reality, we tend to over-focus on the fantasy and make excuses for or rationalize the reality,” she explains. I’d advise the same degree of self-awareness that I’d suggest to women in order to avoid the mess that can ensue as a result.” If your Spidey Sense tells you something’s amiss—say she’s 10 years older than she led you to believe, swapped out her pic for someone else’s on her profile, or invites you to her sister’s wedding for your next date—there’s nothing wrong with cutting your losses, as long as you do it [pagebreak] According to Davidson, the end of a meet-up date can be awkward, especially if you aren’t sure if you want to see her again.“One way to handle it is to say something like, ‘I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you.Women are told to A) Meet their date in a public, B) Let someone know where they'll be and with whom, C) Bring a cell phone, and D) Have an exit strategy. No matter how hot you are for her, or how hot she seems to be for you online, in person, the first thing she’s going to try to suss out is whether or not you’re to be trusted.It’s no reflection on you, and it doesn't matter if you spend your Sundays helping out at the local orphanage or old folks home.
“Just say that as much as you enjoyed getting to know her, you realized you two weren’t quite the match you’d hoped,” Davidson advises.
Granted, if you two don’t click, they might just be karma points, but if there’s chemistry, you’ll have avoided turning her off by lacking finesse.” NEXT: Don't Take Her Skepticism Personally [pagebreak] Most online dating advice regarding safety is geared toward women, and not without good reason.
Sexual predators constantly troll the Internet looking for prey, and ladies who trust too easily can, and do, wind up in compromising or even dangerous situations.
“She’ll spend time doing her hair, applying her makeup oh-so-perfectly, choosing the right outfit—all of which is easily an hour or more out of her day.
You won’t be spending the same amount of prep time, so consider that her investment has already trumped yours, and make it worth her while.” Davidson suggests that you meet somewhere that you’d take a “real” first date, not just a “check-her-out” prospect.