Frustrated, I posted a dating ad on Craigslist (a classifieds website with a personals section) declaring that I didn’t look or behave like the stereotypical Asian woman. I’m not self-centred; I’m independent; I’m not meek; I know what I want.The message I wanted to get across was: ‘If you’re up for the challenge, great.Otherwise, let’s not waste time.’ The one who got away Surprisingly, a guy who responded really stood out.He was an expat here, three years younger, intelligent, into art, books and animals, and we shared great banter.Dating over the years I picked myself up and continued dating online.I had a particularly memorable date with an architect from Detroit who was in town for an event. Ironically, I made several good male friends in my quest for true love! I hate the idea of meeting people in loud bars, but I did try speed dating, though it always felt like I was conducting weird, one-sided interviews.We shared the same relationship goals – we weren’t dating ‘just to have fun’. I texted him a few times, but he never replied, so I got the hint fast.I was upset, but I backed off to maintain some pride.
If it worked out, we might arrange subsequent dates; otherwise the interactions just fizzled.A pioneer in online dating Being one of the first among my friends to try online dating, I felt like a trailblazer!I’m pretty confident, so I was comfortable with posting a selfie and personal profile explaining who I was and what I was looking for.For two months, we saw each other twice or thrice a week, going for walks at Ang Mo Kio-Bishan Park, watching movies and meeting for lunch and after work.We were dating exclusively and it felt like it was going somewhere.